#Microblog Mondays: More than “Just a Mom”

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Not sure what #MicroblogMondays is? Read the inaugural post which explains the idea and how you can participate too.

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The past year, I’ve spent a majority of my time “mom-ing”. Having this year off work, I’ve been the primary caretaker for baby girl and for a lot of this time I have struggled with my sense of self; my needs and my self have come second to Bebe and it’s been a tough adjustment to parenthood. But now that things have sort of fallen into a routine, we’ve got our groove, I get out more, hubby and I have date nights; life has some balance. I feel so much better when I have some time for me. Despite the fact that I am now a mom, and that is a huge game changer, I am not “just a mom” now. I was other things before Bebe came into our lives, and though my priorities have shifted, I don’t cease being the whole person, that I always was. Now I am a mother, but I am also still; a wife, a partner, a lover, a daughter, a granddaughter, a daughter-in-law, a niece, a professional, a friend, a teammate, a traveler, a blogger; an individual. I certainly want to try to be the best mom I possibly can, but not by sacrificing my sense of self. I owe that to my daughter, whom I love with all of my being.

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3 thoughts on “#Microblog Mondays: More than “Just a Mom”

  1. It’s good to have that equilibrium! I found that I didn’t struggle too much in obvious ways, but that the questions of identity come up subtly. For example, when I’m talking with a friend, it’s very easy to talk only about AJ and not about myself. I have to make a point to talk about my life as separate from my daughter’s (hopefully the person I’m talking to encourages this). I think it’s important for children to see that parents have an identity apart from them. (My daughter has (unprompted) been learning and using our first names sometimes lol.)

  2. ” I owe that to my daughter …” I love that you phrased it this way. That’s how I would have felt too. In fact, it is how I feel, because it is important for us all to remember that, just as you are more than a mother although that is part of who you are, we are all more than our infertility, even though it will always be part of who we are too.

    • Yes, exactly. And I didn’t/don’t know how to phrase it but to the women still trying, or those, like yourself, living a “No Kidding” life; you may not have the title “mom”, but you are so many other things.

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