It’s hard not to reflect on the year past at the beginning of the next. While I don’t make New Years resolutions, I usually take a backward glance before the calendar flips forward. 2015 was finally our year, despite some ups and downs, our daughter entered our lives and that was hands down the highlight of the year. Though life with a baby started out tough, I feel like I have a little more of a handle on things and my anxiety level has come down some. Not to say I know what I’m doing, but we’ve got some consistency and it makes life much more enjoyable. I’m not the most skilled with words, and I don’t wax poetic, so here is something I ripped right off of Facebook.
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.
Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough, and we’ll be more content when they are.
After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our partner gets his or her act together when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice holiday, when we retire.
The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
A quote comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said,
“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time…and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until winter, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink…. there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Easier for me to say now, but would have been wise words while battling with infertility. Yet it still applies, as I sometimes need to remind myself just to enjoy the now while my daughter is small. And never is that easier than when she is snuggled in my arms and I have nowhere to be but with her.