My baby and I have been getting bigger and bigger! Every time I start to draft up a post, I get writers block or I just get plain too busy. Ever since our anatomy scan just before 20 weeks I feel like things have just been coasting along (which is awesome!). On one hand it feels like time has slowed down, but here we are at 28 weeks and third trimester already, less than three months until she is here! This pregnancy has gone quickly and slowly, if that makes sense. Slowly when I am waiting to hit a milestone, for a next appointment or some other such “event”, but otherwise I can’t believe how much time has passed since the day of the two lines, our first ultrasound, finding out the gender and the anatomy scan. The beginning felt like a whirlwind and time to tell people came so suddenly (despite the fact that I put it off as long as possible) but now we are in more of a sit back and wait mode (sort of). Not that we haven’t been busy preparing for baby girl’s arrival!
We finally bit the bullet and ordered a crib (in white) a couple of weeks ago, which should be here by the end of the month. The dresser we bought ages ago has finally been sanded, repainted and we (more so J) have been working on painting the inlay detail on the drawers and down the feet of the dresser. It was originally all gold, but when we repainted the dresser we painted over the inlay to do that fresh as well and I found a rose gold to sort of coordinate with the pinks in the nursery. It is such a beautiful piece of furniture and I am so excited to be able to start putting clothes away and assembling a changing station on top of it. We also ordered a glider from Costco last week. There was one I had my eye on for a long time but then when I went to order it there was a new one on the website, and it was on sale! So we ordered that one but if we don’t like it we will just return it and get the other one instead. We’ve picked bedding (we had bought some already from Babies R’ Us but then I found some different stuff I liked better at Buy Buy Baby and returned a majority of the BRU stuff). Our theme is nautical pink and navy. It is sooo cute, but not too baby-ish, or girly. Which I realise sounds a bit odd, because she is a baby, and a girl but I’m not into the really “froofy” stuff so this was perfect. Plus we are most definitely water people, and the room will have that vibe.
The nursery is one of the parts of pregnancy I have been most excited for (besides the actual baby part!). I am not a decorator by nature but I have very specific ideas of what I want, and what I don’t. Sometimes that gets me into a bit of a pickle when I can’t find exactly what I’m looking for. So far I have been pretty lucky, in finding an old, one of a kind dresser, the perfect bedding, and my mother in law is going to make us black out curtains. I still need to find a bookshelf, and a side table to go next to the glider but I feel good because the big pieces are on their way (and the dresser nearly complete).
A few weeks ago, J and I had to go to Ontario for his grandma’s funeral, while it was poor circumstances, it was nice to go visit his family out there. All of his family besides one set of Aunt and Uncle live out east because it’s where both of his parents are from. So we don’t have family gatherings with them often, and has been several years since I’ve seen some of them as there hasn’t been a wedding in a while! Of course everyone wanted to see me and the baby bump, which I really didn’t want to be the centre of attention on this visit but it was nice as they normally wouldn’t have seen me during my pregnancy at all.
The funeral was difficult as it was my husband’s last living grandparent. It was my mother in law’s mother and they were very close despite the fact that they lived thousands of kilometers apart. In grandma’s apartment there was a baby blanket that she had bought to send us (J’s aunt knew it was there), which added another layer of sadness. She was very excited for our child, her 14th great grandchild, to be born. J wrote a note that went into the urn of her ashes and buried at the gravesite, introducing her to the newest addition by her full name. So Grandma is the only one to have the privilege to know baby girl’s name before she is born.
The following weekend, at the end of May, J and I went to the mountains to celebrate our five year wedding anniversary. We got engaged 7 years ago at a beautiful hotel set into the side of the mountain so we stayed there this time as a special treat. We had a room with a gorgeous view into the mountains and the valley. We spent a weekend relaxing, eating, and just sauntering around town. We did also take a 5.4 km hike to a waterfall that I was proud of myself for managing, though I was pretty tired out after all that walking. When we got engaged it was out on a balcony overlooking the valley and the mountains, so we asked the hotel if we could get onto that same balcony to take an updated, where-we-are-now photo. We couldn’t get the exact one, but managed two floors lower with the exact same view. It was pretty great to be able to take those photos with my belly on display, to see us now and then. If I could have told the me of 7 years ago what was in store…
So far I’ve found pregnancy has been pretty kind to me, I haven’t had any awful symptoms, or at least nothing that has been more than what I expected. My sleep is more restless, because my hips get sore from laying on my side but I still don’t get up in the night to pee. I don’t feel like I’ve really had much of an increased urine output much at all, except for the fact that I drink more water, that has to come out more often. And occasionally I’ll get a kick to the bladder that makes the urge to go sudden, and urgent, even if I just went five minutes prior. I’m surprised I’m not running to the bathroom constantly because I had a peanut bladder even before I got pregnant. I tend to get a stuffy nose around bed time which makes trying to sleep really annoying. I don’t wear heels much at all anymore because I find my back gets sore much more quickly. Makes me sad, as majority of my shoes are heels (and not many are less than 3 inches) so it has limited my footwear choices significantly. I’ve had occasional flare ups of eczema on my chest, but have managed those pretty well (this in fact was one of the very first pregnancy symptoms I had). I’ve had bouts of intestinal back-up and some indigestion discomfort but truly, none of it has been unbearable or continued for any great length of time.
My OB visits are getting closer together now but they are still very brief and going well. I passed my GD screening (hallelujah!), my weight is right on track, and my belly is measuring as it should. I’ve been given a kick count chart and if baby girl doesn’t make 6 or more movements in 2 hours I am to go to L&D to have her checked on. Her movement declining is the thing that sends me worrying quickly but so far she is active pretty consistently. I have to get a note from my OB at my next visit to give to my HR department so I can officially let them know I am going on mat. leave. Unofficially my boss already knows my last day will be Aug. 14, giving me about 2 and a half weeks off before my due date.
Speaking of my due date, my OB’s office has a different due date for me than what the fertility clinic gave me. I don’t remember how it came up but one of the resident doctors I saw mentioned it being Aug. 30, when I have it as Sept. 2 . Apparently they set it as Aug. 30 from my very first ultrasound measurements. Of the one day that I do not want baby girl to make her grand entrance it is Aug. 30. Both of my nieces (my BIL and SIL’s girls) are born on Aug. 30, the younger of the two by scheduled c-section. So, I’m hoping that Murphy’s Law does not burst my bubble, and that our daughter does not inherit my husband’s promptness to arrive on her due date. But I have been sticking to Sep. 2, because the fertility clinic knows how many days old she was when they transferred her, we’re going with that!
I have a baby shower hosted by my Aunt coming up in about a month, which I requested to be a brunch shower and keeping the silly games, and other such shower traditions to a minimum. This will be a smaller shower with mostly just the ladies of my family, plus some close friends. Initially J’s aunt was going to host a shower for us after the baby is born, sometime in September but with her daughter getting married mid-September and the fact that she’ll have to travel here from Ontario, it became less feasible. So instead, J’s mom is going to host the co-ed backyard BBQ baby shower of my dreams. It’s all I really wanted, just a casual party with couples (not just ladies). My MIL is pretty well letting me take the reigns because she wants it to be what I want. First task is figuring out invitations which I might just design myself and have printed. I can’t quite find ones that I like, the ones I do like just need a few tweaks, or I want a combination of two different things so just as easy I do it. I designed and printed our wedding invitations myself and I have to say they were pretty gorgeous and not at all “handmade” tacky looking (I know not all handmade is tacky). So I think I can handle this. Unfortunately, my MIL is going to be out of town most of July, so the shower won’t be until Aug. 9 and I will be nearly 37 weeks giant preggo! Good thing it is going to be a casual affair because I may not be up for much at that point.
My coworkers also want to host a shower for me sometime in July, just something small after work in our large meeting room. It is sweet of them, and they are all just so excited for me. So excited that it is getting really annoying. I am constantly being scrutinized, having comments made on my body, being touched and squealed over. I am so done with it. My coworker that sits right next to me spends 50% of the time I am talking to her looking at my belly, as if she expects the baby to just burst forth all of the sudden. I’ve been told I look tiny, I’ve been told I’m getting big, every other week someone says I’ve “popped”. How many times can one “pop” during pregnancy? I’ve been told my “boobs are getting bigger despite the fact that I didn’t have much to start with” (true, but thanks for that one). Beyond that I seem to have very little patience for my colleagues. I don’t want to help them with their tech problems, or answer their inane questions, whether they be work or baby related. I’ve never been the most patient person but I think this one falls to pregnancy because it is so much worse than it’s ever been. I haven’t had “pregnancy brain” too bad yet, but I am having a hard time finding my words, or remembering names of things. It’s annoying, but so far I’ve not said or done anything drastic or awful (yet).
My mother in law just gifted us our stroller/infant seat and all of the coordinating items (car mat, sun visors, snack tray for the stroller, organizer for the stroller, ect). It was a huge haul, and I am so grateful to have that taken care of. We registered for the BOB Motion stroller, but with the Britax B-Safe infant seat all in black (BOB and Britax are the same company, so fortunately their items are compatible). The BOB Motion is a bit more rugged, and had some of the features that we wanted that others didn’t (air filled tires, adjustable handle). Several of my friends recommended the City Select by Baby Jogger because it is essentially a frame that you attach either the infant seat, or stroller seat to depending on what stage you are at, making it light weight and compact. It is also the ideal stroller for those planning on having multiple children in close-ish succession (which is not our plan, if we choose to have a second, and are lucky enough to be able to do so). But I didn’t love it, it was more expensive (not that we would have ended up paying for it, but still) and I didn’t like that you had to buy all of the attaching pieces separately. The nice thing about it is you can use any infant seat with it, you just buy the corresponding adapter kit. I’m happy with what we got, and it is now taking up real estate in the alcove at our front door, which will be it’s permanent place so we may as well get used to it.
So we’re in the last trimester, things are starting to come together. I am so grateful for all of the people who will be hosting our showers, and attending our showers. I think those are the next events to come that I am most excited about, though I still don’t particularly want to be the centre of attention it will be nice to celebrate baby girl after waiting for her for so long.